Lately my wife has been going back and forth with her moods, debating whether or not we should get a divorce.  Today is another zag.  While she is telling me that she thinks its over because of our past I think that its because I was not knocking on her door an hour before the WIC appointment we had at 8:30 this morning.  We made it the appointment 10 minutes early, with all the paperwork, and didn’t have any issues getting our checks.  (This was our first time in California so we had to register as well).

However I am still sleeping in my car, and in order to take a shower I have to drive 5 minutes to the gym, then I have to pack everything back into my trunk, (I fold the seat down lay out a mattress, and am technically halfway sleeping in the trunk) then pack my bag, go into the gym, and hope that there isn’t a line for the one and only shower.  On top of that this will be the only bathroom in which I will be able to brush my teeth and shave in for the day so I have to do that as well.  I roughly give myself an hour, probably could rush it in 30-45 minutes but that would include flossing and shaving (never good to shave in a hurry, you cut yourself or miss spots either way I don’t look like an idiot if I just forget).

I woke up at 7am.  I had to get ready and meet her by 7:30-7:45 so we can install the car seat, plus I had an issue with my laptop last night and it froze causing me to shut it down instead of hibernating so I had to go and google the address again, or….  put on a clean t-shirt and then hose myself down with axe body spray and take a shower after the appointment.  Which gave me lots of time to do everything and I could guarentee we would make it there in time.  So its a choice between an Axe scented funk or re-scheduling this appointment for another month out for the third time in a row (you can guess which choice I picked last month).

Those commericials of the guy spraying himself with Axe just before meeting the chick instead of taking a shower are full of crap.  My wife was mad because she had time to take a shower, but I didn’t even bother.  Um, my bed “is” the back seat of a car.  If I have to take a leak in the middle of the night I have to drive to a nearby gas station, which most of the ones near where I sleep close at 9-10pm.  I think she forgot this…, however by reminding her she felt like I was rubbing it in her face that she could stop it.

All of this combined is a likely chance that set me up for today’s end where she was mad and ready to gouge my eyes out and then slit her own wrist, as the world had officially come to an end.  I spent the better half of the evening trying to calm her down, tell her not matter what I will always love her…, I’m sorry…, blah blah, but what I am thinking is, get over yourself, no one in their right mind argues over such petty differences let along gets a divorce over them.

Hi, my name is mud, and this is my life!

South Korean Wons to 1 USD

120 days latest (Oct 16) 1369.5 lowest (Jul 10) 998.2 highest (Oct 8 ) 1415.25

The above is only a graph for the past 4 months.  Korean Won has ranged about 400 won per one US dollar.  On or around its lowest point 1,000,000 won was roughly worth about $1,000.  With 1$ worth about 1,400 won that makes that same $1,000 worth about $700.  If you are exchanging enough money to buy a business, buy a home, or even buy a car, that is still a fairly heavy chunk of change that would be lost in the exchange.

For once I would like to see the US economy weaken.

South Korean won slumps to lowest level in decade - International Herald Tribune.

Not my normal focus of discussion, however in this case it does hold some significance for me.  Presently an american dollar is worth about 1,395 Korean won.  Which if I was back in Korean being paid in US dollars like I was before I would be loving it.  However that is not the case.  A couple years ago when I left korea a dollar and 1,000 won were worth about the same.

My mother-in-law is looking into leaving Korea and coming to the U.S.  She has two bakeries and a home she will sell then bring that money to the U.S. to establish her home base here.  I don’t know how much money she has, nor do I really want to know, but for the sake of easy math lets say she has a million dollars, or better 1 billion won.

That 1,000,000,000 won would easily be worth $1,000,000 two years ago.  Now the same amount is worth $717,000.  Nearly $300,000 would be lost if that were the amount she would be bringing here.  Even if it was only 1/10 of that, which would be a the cost of a low priced home, she would still be out $30,000.  Still a big chunk of change.  A single percent (1%) of that first figure is $3,000, which is more money than I have at the moment.

This is making it harder and harder for the mom-in-law to make the move here.  If she decides to give up she packs everything up and moves back to Korea.  Including my wife and daughter…, which is where I start to feel uneasy.

I earn enough money at the moment where I can provide the smallest of apartments for my wife and me, still go to school, and keep the creditors off our back.  But there will be no extra for toys, clothes, or any luxuries.  Possibly the same reason I haven’t gotten an apartment yet, I like my toys.

If we moved back to New York I could do this a lot easier.  Possibly even live with my Father for a while, until the price of the won comes back down or until I finish school and can get a better job.  Regardless of where I live I will earn the same, but if I move to a place with cheaper real estate then it would be a much more pleasant life.  My wife won’t leave this area though.  She has had it programmed into her head since she was a baby that people live in cities, and only the extremely poor live in the country.  The fact that this is not Korea isn’t something that she has grasped yet, and one of our many problems.

So if mom takes the plunge and sucks up such a great loss in money, or is able to wait it out long enough and setup shop here in California then I have nothing to worry about.  Except its such a great loss, and I know that this is all because of me as well.  I need to hurry up and finish my two year degree so I can get a job somewhere, then maybe finish my B.S. in night school.

DVC being my 5th college, and having about 25 credits so far, hopefully there are enough so with one more semester and maybe some summer classes I can have my two year degree.

If I get anymore confused with how my wife intends on living her life right now I think I am going to completely loose my mind. Everything has been fine for a week, no arguments, disagreements, or anything else that would instigate coming home from class to an angry wife that wanted me out of the house.

I tried to pry but that only made things worse, but I think its the same lecture as before, she is unhappy with the way her life has turned out. (Because at the age of 27 she is nearing retirement and has nothing to show?!?) She didn’t want me to be there but doesn’t want me to stay cause if she kicked me out she would feel guilty if something happened to me. Or at least she is telling me this at 2am. I finally grew tired and couldn’t get her to come back to bed so I said fuck it and left.

I come back at 10am and things are slightly better, she is saying “I love you” again, but still has a chip on her shoulder. I am working so hard to bite my tongue and just say “yes dear” to everything…, not virtually everything…, literally everything. All in an attempt at making her happy…, this must not be what she wants cause obviously she just has this one mean bone in her that has to get in at least one fight a week.

The best I can hear for grounds to divorce from her is so petty I want to slap her upside the head and say “wake up, this isn’t neverland”. I left a sock on the floor, a cup next to the computer, I put my hand under my head pointing my elbow in her direction while I sleep…, these are her grounds for divorce! I could tell her so many things wrong with her argument but that is just fuel for the fire and I am forced to ignore it.

All of this is taking a toll on my head though.  I am not able to concentrate on my studies as much as I wanted, and even a normal concentration with her my brain is working over time just trying to think of a politically correct, grammaticaly tolerant, user-friendly, statement which doesn’t trigger another arguement.

I love my wife, but if this keeps up she is going to kill me.

Came home to my wife today and noticed a letter taped to the door.  I took it off as I walked in and gave it to my wife as we read it together I noticed it was a note addressed to my wife and didn’t pay too much attention.  Then my wife comes back and asks me what the word “evicted” meant.  I took to note and quickly read it over.

Dohee;

We are going to file legal documents with the superior court to have you evicted.  You need to call me right away.

Vivian

If that isn’t a kick in the balls I don’t know what is.  Not just the fact that she gave no reason and left the note on the door, but my wife was home all day and she didn’t even make an attempt to ring the bell and talk to my wife face-to-face.

I explained, then my wife called.  According to the manager, she went through our mailbox and saw that there was mail in there for people whose name was not on the lease.  Then she talked to the mailman and he told her that we filed a complaint about not recieving all our mail.  (I talked to him personally, was very friendly and explained to put all mail in the box, after my father had mail addressed to my wife returned to him)

Now my wife is irrate, and I am back on the street because some worthless bitch wants to commit a federal crime and rifle through her tenants mailbox.  Just when I am starting to get somewhere with my wife, she buts in and fucks it up.  I tried to explain that what she did was illegal to my wife and that she can’t prove that I live here, I might visit a lot, but I don’t live here.  Bottom line is that I don’t either.

Now I am back to square one with my wife calling her lawyer about the divorce cause we got in a fight over this.  I just hope that her mother shows up soon so that they can buy a house and get out of this hell hole.  I was even looking for a house myself.  If my wife is earning an income as well, we can easily afford the mortgage.  Now I have to start all over and try to woo her back.  My biggest problem with her is so gets soo mad so easily and she won’t admit after the fact that she was wrong, or said something in anger and will follow it through.  She is the most stubborn person I have ever met, and I married her.